happy first birthday, the lipliner!

You read that correctly! Mary and I have been clogging your newsfeed with our ramblings for one whole year! (Minus the brief hiatus, but who doesn’t love a good comeback story?)

We started this blog right after I had graduated college; we were balancing odd jobs but knew that writing was always going to be an important part of each our lives, whether it be professional or personal, or the winning combination of the two.   This platform was created as a means to ensure the continuation in practicing our writing skills.

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reflections on life after college: one year post-grad

As I watched people celebrate their graduations this past month, I couldn’t help but to wonder if they felt the same way I did when I walked across the stage to receive my degree one year ago. Were they apprehensive to leave the academic world, as it was a constant they were surrounded by for the majority of their lives? Were they feeling discouraged, having not figured out a degree-related full-time employment situation prior to this day?  Were they feeling hungry and thinking only of the dinner reservations that awaited them? (…Just me?)

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summer reads

Yesterday on Instagram (shameless LipLiner plug, oh well), I asked our followers to tell me the title of the best book they’ve read in the past year so I can keep my eye out for new picks to add to my “To Read” list. To show that I not only walk to walk, but ~talk the talk~ too, I’ve decided to detail the books I’ve read this summer thus far in hopes that maybe one of these will make it onto your own reading list!

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don’t be afraid to acknowledge your flaws

When I was in the fifth grade, my teacher made a dreaded mistake by telling me I was  “practically perfect.”  I’m sure she meant it as a compliment: I’m a hard working gal and have always devoted excess time to whatever project I’m working on, but in that moment, I remember thinking that it wasn’t so much a praise as it was a challenge.  As in, if this is how I’m being perceived by at least some of my peers, I cannot be anything but.

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there’s validity in your emotions (especially in arguments)

Have you ever noticed that if you’re arguing/disagreeing/discussing something with someone, they’ll call a halt to the conversation if they see you getting upset? I can’t discuss this with you because you’re too emotional.  Or maybe it’s you that “can’t deal” with people getting upset if you’re talking about something passionately.  Discourse is often put into a perceived and rigid binary: being knowledgeable versus being emotional, the structure of which disallows the two to work in tandem.  Often it is believed that one cannot be emotional and still be seen as knowledgeable; if emotions allow a speaker to alter their argument or stand-point there is a  fear that one will seem less credible because of it.

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you & your friends will survive long-distance friendships just fine

When one of my closest friends got a job right after graduation, you could say I was a bit down.  Our moms met when they were each pregnant with their respective child (seriously!), so to not have that familiarity and that presence in my life was horrifying.  No longer would she be able to come over and watch guilty-pleasure movies with me or grab breakfast on Sunday mornings at our favorite diner.  She couldn’t text me to come over with ten minutes’ notice, because we no longer had the proximity that held us together for so long.

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nine things guys say when they find out you are chronically ill

Dating is hard enough by itself and having a chronic illness adds an additional level of complications. So yes, I’d like you to accept my normal “crazy girl” stuff, but I also need you to understand, accept, and deal with the chronic illness I face everyday. That’s a super awesome elevator speech for dating if I’ve ever heard one (…by the way: sarcasm is required when you are told you have a joint crippling disease at 18).

 
I’ve been on a lot of dates, mainly for the free food and drinks, and I have learned that your special someone is going to love you for you, chronic disease or not. The shiny fish I will eventually find in this overwhelming ocean of options will get over the days he has to carry me to the bathroom or let me cry on his shoulder. But for your laughs and my therapeutic writing experiment, here are some of my favorite quotes from guys I’ve dated in reaction to finding out about my chronic illness.

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